Today I've got a book review! Which is sort of shocking because it's been forever since I've managed to get through an entire book in a reasonable amount of time. However, now that we're settled, my husband and I have decided we want to make a real effort to read more at least most nights of the week.
So, we've been trying to unplug 30 or so minutes before bed and read actual, paper books(!) instead of mindlessly scrolling or gaming on our phones. It's already paid off in better sleep for me, which is a big deal.
A few nights ago, I finished Bebe Day by Day in one sitting. I'd been wanting to read the book it's based on, Bringing Up Bebe, since it came out, but mom life. This is basically the highlights version of the original and it was an interesting, light read.
I'm always intrigued by parenting philosophies, mostly because I hope someone has the secret to keeping our toddler happy and the "tween" drama to a minimum. Bebe Day by Day highlights the major tenets of modern French parenting. I like that Druckerman doesn't offer judgments or commentary on how it's superior or inferior, but rather just shares how French parents are generally more laid back and have kids who eat real food and sleep through the night.
Druckerman points out that many of the points in the book are either starting to be supported by the latest research, or align with much of the "common sense" American style from 30+ years ago. I have seen some of this supported in my own research over the past few years, and a lot of it is very similar to how my parents raised me (and were raised themselves).
My favorite tidbits:
- Give kids real food! If they're given more than chicken nuggets and Macaroni, they will learn to eat AND enjoy other things.
- Life is not a race to college! Yes, parents want their kids to have fulfilling and successful adult lives, but we don't need to start them on that path and sign them up for classes/lessons as soon as they exit the womb.
- Focus on teaching kids empathy, compassion, and social skills in their early years! These are probably the skills they'll use most in life, and mastering them early might even make parenting a little easier.
Overall, I suggest this book to parents and parents-to-be! These 100 tenets are not the only answer to raising children, but reading these lessons at least won't do you any harm. Plus, it's short enough that you could actually get through it in a decent amount of time, even after chasing wild little ones all day. Check it out, and let's discuss if you do!