Friday, October 14, 2016
I just want to remind you all that the 2016 Military Spouse Wellness Summit starts on MONDAY and lasts all week! And, great news, it's now open to spouses of first responders as well!
I've shared everything you need to know about this amazing opportunity in these posts. This year's theme is "Happily Ever After" and is all about strengthening your health through your marriage.
This is an all VIRTUAL summit--no traveling, missing work, scheduling child care, etc.
General admission is FREE--you can make a donation (<$30) for VIP access, which enters you to win prizes and download the interviews forever, but this is NOT required to participate the week of the summit!
Sign up HERE!!
Can't wait to see you all in the Facebook group next week!
at 2:40 AM
Wednesday, October 12, 2016
Like most Americans, I've been mulling over whether or not I wanted to add my voice to the rest of the dialogue around a certain presidential nominee's comments. Then I learned that yesterday was the International Day of the Girl, and as both a woman and mom to girls, I feel like I have to say something. (Note: While I obviously have political opinions, that is a discussion for another day.)
By now I'm sure every person has heard the recorded comments, likely to the point where they wish they could un-hear them, so they don't need repeating. However, the issue for me goes well beyond them. The worst part of the whole situation is that essentially none of my male friends have outright called out the behavior for what it is. In fact, a number of them have tried to justify it by saying it's nothing more than words. But you know what? Words matter--and they matter a lot.
What I want our girls, and all girls, to learn from this:
- When people show you who they are, believe them. This sentiment is Maya Angelou's and it holds true in nearly every situation. The language people use to express themselves, particularly educated people in positions of power, demonstrates both their beliefs and character. If someone consistently uses repulsive language then you can safely assume that you're dealing with a terrible person.
- You do not have to accept behavior, from anyone, that belittles you in any way. There is no one who has the right to make you feel like less than a human being of great worth and value. Period.
- It is perfectly okay to call someone to the carpet when they are not meeting the standards of decency. Have you heard someone being sexist, racist, homophobic, etc.? Are they just "joking"? Call them out on it! This can be intimidating, but an easy way to do this is to simply ask them to repeat whatever they've just said. Chances are, if they have a conscience or basic situational awareness, they'll catch the error of their ways.
- Rape culture is not acceptable in any way, shape, or form. Nothing at all that encourages rape culture can be tolerated. Does someone want to share about their sexual conquests? You don't have to hear about them. Does someone want to brag about being able to get whatever they want without asking? Let them know that's not even remotely okay. Does someone like to talk about the attractiveness of someone else's body parts (especially if they are not in a relationship with that person but even if they are, honestly)? Call them out on it. A mature adult can keep these feelings inside or, at the very least, private.
- Being privileged doesn't give anyone license to be an a-hole. No matter someone's position in life, there is no standing that gives anyone license to be a jerk. Seriously. It doesn't matter if you're rich, attractive, educated, etc., no one is inherently more valuable than anyone else.
What advice would you give girls today and in the future?
Friday, September 30, 2016
With so much negativity on the Internet recently, I've decided to start a new series of feel-good links to start your weekend off on the right foot. Enjoy, and have a great weekend!
I haven't watched The Voice since the first season, but Alicia Keys seems like the sweetest person. I might have to start watching again!
A guy feeds his kitten tiny pancakes.
How do you feel about adulting? Sometimes you just need a little encouragement.
Have any good links? Share them in the comments!
Monday, September 26, 2016
I am SO excited about the range of topics that the Military Spouse Wellness Summit is bringing to both military AND first responder spouses this year! Some of these folks, as experts in their respective fields, would cost $100+ an hour to consult with in person. However, Corie Weathers, Armed Forces Insurance, and InDependent.org are bringing them to YOU for the cost of $0!!!
Today, I'm going to shine a light on this year's speakers. Get excited, because they are all coming to your inbox the week of October 17th! All you have to do is sign up HERE.
**If you'd like to be in the running for some AMAZING prizes, be sure to register for VIP access (use code EARLYBIRD to get 44% off through September 30th!)
- Lakesha Cole, 2014 Armed Forces Insurance Spouse of the Year & founder of MilSpousepreneur
- Dr. John Townsend, expert on establishing boundaries & New York Times best-selling author
- Taya Kyle, U.S. Navy veteran spouse & founder of the Chris Kyle Frog Foundation
- Dr. Michael Systma, expert on intimacy in marriage & Certified Sex Therapist
- Shasta Nelson, expert on relationship building & founder of GirlfriendCircles.com
- Dr. Ingrid Yee, 2014 Armed Forces Insurance National Guard Spouse of the Year & founder of Military Spouse Behavioral Health Clinicians
- Dr. Les Parrott, expert on relationship development & New York Times best-selling author
- El Brown, 2012 Armed Forces Insurance Army Spouse of the Year & founder of SnapBack! with El Brown
Linking up with Molly today!
Monday, September 19, 2016
In the words of General Ray Odierno at his retirement:
On his wife-- "She sacrificed her whole life for me. I can never repay her for that."
On military spouses-- "It's often hard for me to stand up here and make other people understand how much our spouses sacrifice. You don't understand. You don't understand everything that they do everyday in order to make us a better Army. I don't believe there's any other profession that we count on our spouses to do so many things."
This speech went viral in the MilSpouse community when GEN Odierno retired. Even though retiring service members often thank their spouses for their support, this was the first time that such a high-ranking officer went so far as to specifically say that people outside of our world cannot understand the life we live. Of course, all spouses commit to loving their partner through the ups and downs of life, but military couples have added (and sometimes very heavy) burdens.
Unfortunately, military spouses are often so focused on everyone else's needs that they forget to take care of themselves. I am so excited that Corie Weathers, 2015 Armed Forces Insurance Spouse of the Year and author of the recently released Sacred Spaces, is leading this year's Military Spouse Wellness Summit: Happily Ever After! on helping people improve their marriages through self-care.
The summit is a VIRTUAL event, so attendees don't have to worry about traveling, missing work, or child care. Also, it's FREE! Some of these experts charge $100+ an hour for their time as experts in their respective fields. And the Military Spouse Wellness Summit brings them to you for nothing at all!
Here are all the details--
Who: You and 10 experts on topics from health to relationships to finances
What: A virtual summit helping you improve your marriage by enriching yourself!
When: October 17-22 for general admission, and unlimited listening for VIP registrants (use code EARLYBIRD to get 44% off until October 1!).
Where: Your house, your car, the gym, or wherever you feel comfortable
How: Sign up HERE!